| From: Gali (Original Message) | Sent: 5/15/2002 1:42 AM |
Hi guys,
It is approaching 1 am and I am reflecting discrete maths, I have my final tomorrow. Anyway, in my reflection, I was wondering about the way the culture in US is so different from home. Then the thought crosses my mind. Inter-racial dating. What would happen if I got an American girlfriend and took her home with me? What would the people in Uganda say? How would my relatives react? We boast of freedom but are we really free to date freely across all boundaries of even skin color? Does society accept it or merely pretend not to notice it? Hmmm? I'd better get back to maths now...I hope to get some responses.
| From: Gali | Sent: 5/18/2002 10:17 PM |
Mark,
You make a good point. I am particularly amused when u get defensive mbu, "that is what I hear". I think you do more than just hear. Now we know which guy made all those fruitless visits...nannyini kaze... But anyway, adding on to that point, it's interesting to note that even the black women in the US are tough to deal with (atleast the few I have met). Is it a black thing everywhere?
According to my own private survey of the white girls that hang out with black guys or "have gone black and will never turn back", certain habits have been seen to be associated with them.
Apart from the popular myths about black men that I shall not re-iterate, I noticed that they usually want to live life on the edge and think that the black dudes will probably be more exciting. They usually smoke weed or drink a lot of alcohol. The kind of person they will pick will probably surprise many of you, but the scrawniest, roughest "bad boy" will get with her. Someone please tell me I am not the only one that notices these things.
| From: Gali | Sent: 5/19/2002 9:09 AM |
Bala,
Correction. My surveys do not necessarily conclude that I am in a popular position with the people I am talking about. I take my surveys from many other resources other than real life like media. However, I do agree with you that that feeling arises for them to be using you to enjoy life. But again Bala, this observation seems wierd and a double standard to be coming from you, the jomba that seemed to look at benefits like dual citizenship.
Now about the white men dating black women. You may be mistaken. I have not made my survey on them yet, but I noticed that there are more liberal relationships as you move towards the big cities. I can tell you that I have never seen a white man dating a black woman in Indiana, not even on my campus. They may want to get with them but for only selfish purposes like sex, but I have not seen many relationships. Therefore, I derive my conclusion from Mark;s posting. Maybe the white men are lazy and do not have time for the fruitless visits and 'torture' involved in getting their catch. And did you also consider that the white men are not too popular with the black women( in US atleast). So maybe they(white men) are scared of the strong black woman.
hi guys, thats an interesting topic...inter-racial dating.
But if we really want to know why black girls don't usually date white guys,
we should pose the question to our fellow girls in the Budo community. Iam
sure they will be in better position to answer this question. So
ladies.....,tell us.
| From: Solo | Sent: 5/19/2002 6:58 PM |
hi guys, thats an interesting topic...inter-racial dating.
But if we really want to know why black girls don't usually date white guys,
we should pose the question to our fellow girls in the Budo community. Iam
sure they will be in better position to answer this question. So
ladies.....,tell us.
| From: Gali | Sent: 5/19/2002 9:36 PM |
Bala,
Looking back at my postings, maybe my views were rather strong and seemed to be racist. But I did not mean for it to sound that way. I just meant to simply show you that I have certain preferences. It is kind of like if you were given the choice of doing porter with Shaka or doing porter with Pote, who would you choose? I might choose Shaka and u might go with Pote. That does not mean under certain circumstances, you would not have chosen Shaka. In the same vein, the fact that I have an innocent preference for black women does not mean that I would not date or marry that ideal white woman that you described. Personally, I think that this racism issue is now overrated here. Any small thing is considered racism. I wonder whether I would be considered racist if I had instead said that I prefer white women to black women, and would never reconsider dating or marrying another black woman. I surely know some people that have that exact attitude.
hey we need to hear the ladies opinions on this very interesting topic. So
if your there please lets hear it.
ok noww Mark i know you have tried it with the white babes tell us more.
| From: wase | Sent: 5/21/2002 10:17 AM |
hey we need to hear the ladies opinions on this very interesting topic. So
if your there please lets hear it.
ok noww Mark i know you have tried it with the white babes tell us more.
| rom: Robbie | Sent: 5/21/2002 3:40 PM |
| Hello guys. Well I don't think I will be making a substantial contribution to the subject under debate. It is not that I don't want to but rather due to the fact that the more we dwell on such an issue, the more it looks like we are racists. I mean let us stop for a second or three and look at the mail that has been written concerning this. And guys, why aren't the ladies contributing a word? It could be that the subject is not actually engulfing all parties in the community. So as a suggestion, I would kindly request the "manager" to choose another topic that will permit the ladies to ensconce their views. My fingers are tempting me to say something on this issue and I will. When I was back home, I considered our ladies to be more or less the same as the ones all over Africa. But when you travel, you begin to appreciate them and the things they do for their men. As they say, "You got all till it is gone and you don't know what you got till it is gone.". So what am I saying. I guess what Iam trying to say is that people look for different things in partners. Some look for "brown skin" while others look for "Mugoyo". Man let me return to the books. Apologies go to any one offended by the pre-current paragraph. I could not resist the urge. ~Rob@ |
| From: Mark | Sent: 5/21/2002 5:59 PM |
I beg your pardon wase. Man dont be saying such stuff.eh, you guy, you have mob katwa.Anyway I dont know anything about that stuff.I always hear from guys.Infact, Gali was telling me some more things that I will fill you in on when I finish exams.He is the guy I guess who has LOTS of experience
| From: Gali | Sent: 5/22/2002 5:36 PM |
Now Mark,
Do not try to use me as a channel to diverge the pressure on you..hehe. Wase asked YOU. I do not know how my name comes in. So stand up like a man and defend yourself:)
Now Robert, you make some good points. However, I want to inform you that there will never be a topic to choose that will interest all members of the community. One cannot please everyone..infact, that is the route to failure. Therefore, the managers do not control any conversations, unless they are way off topic or insulting to any members of the communities. Therefore, the only way to end a conversation is to not to start it at all, otherwise if one is not interested in a topic, they have no obligation to post a message concerning it. Remember, this is a free community and if the managers restricted the topics discussed, wouldn't that be strangling the neck of freedom?
Another query I have with you is a question. What do u consider racism? We need to define what it is and consider who among the community is being segregated against. Are we going to ignore what is going on in society because we are trying not to be racist? Therefore, I need for you to explain to me what you consider to be racism because we seem to have differing understandings of the term.
The final point that I noticed on US media is that black men seem to be more interested in women's behinds while the white men seem to be more interested in the chest area. Hmm ..I wonder..is that the reason more white women are cautious about their breast size and the queue for breast implants will have more white ladies, while the black women will be more interested in increasing their "bootiliciousity"?
| From: lynn | Sent: 1/26/2003 5:07 PM |
Hey Gali,
I know i may be abit behind on the topic's y'all discuss, but this particular one caught my eye.Inter - Racial relationships???? Personally i think there is nothing wrong with that i mean if it is based on true love not just for show. Anyhow i'll give you a call sometime and we shall discuss this more (if you know what i mean)
Take care guys.
| From: Ash | Sent: 1/27/2003 6:19 AM |
Gwe Gali....whats this stuff? I mean the calls and all that, and not forgeting what you and little Ka Lynn are gonna talk about? Tell us!!! Any, i rest ma case but i hope you are not loosing focus...eeehhhh!!!!
See you!
| From: lynn | Sent: 1/28/2003 3:54 PM |
Ashy,
What's up?Me and Gali have alot to discuss.....right Gali!!!! Anyway ashy u call me too or give me your number and i'll call you.Take care
| From: Mark | Sent: 1/31/2003 6:51 AM |
You are right Senyange, guys are trying to ....It's so amusing.Ashy never bangs gas,mooob gas
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